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4 Year old explains the real reason behind ‘bidai’ at Indian weddings

reason behind bidai

Last week we attended a wedding at Mysore. A unique multi-cultural wedding where the groom was Sikh and the bride hailed from a Kannadiga family – a matrimony of not just two people but of two states, two cultures and two ideologies! And it was fun!

It was a treat to watch the two families accept each other with hearts wide open. The Pagri cland groom happily adorned the silk Panche (a garment wore on lower body in South India), while the bride all dolled-up in a Kanjeevaram saree happily flaunted her Choora (a stack of traditional red and white bangles worn by the Punjabis). And together they took the Saptapadi at a temple followed by Anant Karaj at a Gurudwara. Love triumphed yet again! Yay!

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While the entire clan was enjoying the celebrations, H had some observations, particularly about the concept of ‘Bidai’ (The ritual where the bride leaves her maternal home to go to the groom’s house.) My four year old couldn’t fathom why this bunch of happy souls including the pretty bride was suddenly shedding tears!

I tried to explain but she had some serious logic!

H: Mumma, why are you crying? Why is Boo (That’s how she addresses her Bua – father’s sister) crying? Why is everyone crying? (A deluge of queries that I couldn’t avoid answering after a certain point.)
Me: Because, Boo is going.
H: But you don’t cry when I go to school!
Me: You come back in the afternoon.
H: Boo will also come. She has a car. Don’t cry, you are a big girl.
Me: (In my mind) She has a point.
H to Papa: (Certainly not convinced with my answer) Where is Boo going and why is everyone crying?
Papa: She is going to her new home.
H: Everyone has a home. I have a home. Ajji has a home. Asha Ajji has a home. Masi has a home. Then why is everyone crying for her home. Bad manners, Papa!
Again she had a point!
At this juncture one of the ladies in the family jumped in with the big daddy of all reasons. “Boo is crying because she is leaving her Papa. You will also have to leave your Papa and go one day.”
H: (Almost losing it by now.) My Papa is the best, I will not leave him! Boo’s Papa must be naughty!

Oblivious to the ramblings of the big world my curious kid managed to bring back smiles on our faces with her fun conclusion to Bidai. And I left discussing the serious marriage business with H for some other day. For now, let’s blame the naughty papas ๐Ÿ˜‰

Bidai happnens because Papas are naughty! ย Wish life was as simple as she thinks it to be.

Is that Kareena’s baby Taimur’s first photo?

Kareena Kapoor Khan with her baby Taimur
Kareena Kapoor Khan with her baby Taimur

Here’s a photo of Kareena Kapoor and her baby that has surfaced on the Internet. Shared by Kareena Kapoor’s fan page on Instagram, the photo has left us confused!

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It’s a baby boy for Kareena-Saif!

Kareena Kapoor is blessed with a baby boy!
Kareena Kapoor is blessed with a baby boy!

Update: Check out Taimur Ali Khan Pataudi’s first photoย 

It’s official! Kareena Kapoor and Saif Ali Khan are blessed with a baby boy this morning!

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Rani Mukerjee shares letter, photo of daughter Adira on first birthday

As daughter Adira turns one, mommy Rani Mukherjee shares Adira's photo and a heart felt letter.
As daughter Adira turns one, mommy Rani Mukherjee shares Adira’s photo and a heart felt letter.

A child’s first birthday is a special moment for parents. After all it’s their birthday too as new parents! A journey that they began an year ago with an all new member in the family has reached its first big milestone. Though the kid is too young to understand the excitement but I’m sure he/she’ll be happy to listen to stories, look at pictures and read letters, which became a part of his first birthday celebration.

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How I managed my Gestational Diabetes

How I Managed My Gestational Diabetes
How I Managed My Gestational Diabetes

November 14 is celebrated as World Diabetes Day across the world. I realised this pretty late during the day, hence this post is coming a day later. ย I always wanted to write on this topic but could never gather the courage to revisit the only ‘not-so-happy’ part of my otherwise beautiful pregnancy. Yes, I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes very early during my pregnancy. ย Those who know me would knowย how much I dread the disorder. I lost my dad to diabetes 10 years ago. He was only 50. ย So, I had my reasons to freak out when I first got to know about my high sugar levels. ย And I did freak out and how! From “how did I get it?” to “how would I mange it” to “will my baby also be diabetic?,” my mind was full of questions (and misconceptions too) that I wanted someone to clear. Soon, I was on the mission to manage my sugars and my pregnancy.ย And I did it, thanks to my gynaecologist and my diabetologist. Here are a few things I did about gestational diabetes and sailed happy and healthy through the nine months…

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